Polyamory isn't about having multiple partners. It isn't about the concept that no one person can completely fulfill another person. It isn't about promiscuity or living a 'dangerous lifestyle' or not taking a commitment to a single person seriously. Granted, there are a lot of people in the poly community who do have these issues or ideas. And there are a lot of people outside the community that have these ideas. But that isn't what polyamory is about.

Polyamory is all about love. The idea that love is unconditional. That love is blind. That love knows no bounds. Love cannot be contained. In the words of West Side Story "When love calls so strong, there is no right or wrong. Your love is." Love does not work along the bounds of society, whatever that is. Love does not care whether you are committed, or neurotic, or ethnic, or rich, or busy or whatever. Love is. And Love exists in a way that no one can fully comprehend. Love is not just love of family, or country, or spouse, or friends. Love is all these things and each relationship reflect some of those various facets. You don't choose who your friends are, or who your parents are. You can be friends with anyone. Your family can be anyone, similar to you or not. Your children will grow to be their own people.

And that is what polyamory is about. The fact that romantic love is like all other sorts of love. It can be narrow and focused. It can be wide and all-encompassing. You can love one, or you can love two, or you can love many. It isn't about having several spouses, or several lovers, or several families or whatever. It is all about allowing the possibility. It is acknowledging that romantic love is a multitude, unconstrained by convention or artifice. Love is. Period.

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